Nicole Thomte , LMFT

Nicole Thomte (she/her or they/them) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, holding an LMFT credential and licensed in Minnesota as MN LMFT 3853. An LMFT indicates specialized training to work with individuals, couples, and families to address relational and personal challenges. Nicole concentrates her practice on people who live outside dominant societal expectations and seeks to provide affirmative, nonjudgmental care for LGBTQIA+ communities, kink and BDSM practitioners, consensual non-monogamy and polyamorous relationships, and other sexual and gender diverse clients.

She favors a largely solution-focused method informed by an intersectional feminist perspective, and she also practices in a sex-positive way while honoring the validity of asexual identities. Her therapeutic stance is client-centered and non-directive - exploratory, accepting, and often attentive to the small amounts of humor that ease life’s stressors. Nicole treats clients as the experts in their own lives and offers outside perspective to help reveal patterns and connections that can be hard to see from inside difficult situations.

Choosing therapy as a third career, Nicole brings years of commitment to working with people who face layered barriers. After earning a state intern license in 2013 she worked at a behavioral health agency serving people with multiple health challenges and limited resources. From November 2012 until a hiatus in July 2018 she attended supervision groups and co-facilitated survivor groups with Gender Justice Nevada, learning from survivors of sex- and gender-based violence, sex- and gender-diverse young people, families, and sex workers. She has provided group facilitation as well as individual, couple, and family therapy, and she continues to advocate for those pushed to society’s margins.

Approach-Focused Care Delivered Online

Nicole uses client-centered therapy to create a supportive, non-directive space where the person’s experience guides the work; this approach helps people explore values, identity, and relationship dynamics while being treated as the expert in their own life. She also employs solution-focused therapy, which concentrates on practical steps and existing strengths to move toward concrete goals and reduce distress. In addition, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) techniques are used when helpful to develop emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness skills that support day-to-day functioning.

Finding the right therapeutic approach is part of the process, and Nicole works collaboratively with each person to determine which methods fit their needs, goals, and preferences. She tailors strategies over time, combining elements from different approaches as appropriate and checking in with clients to ensure the work feels useful and respectful.

Online therapy options include video sessions, phone appointments, live chat, and text-based messaging, offering flexibility for busy schedules, mobility limitations, or geographic constraints. These formats allow licensed professionals to provide consistent, accessible care while accommodating different communication styles and life demands.