Paula Kane , BACP

Paula Kane is a UK-based therapist who supports people feeling worn down by constant strength, self-doubt, and repeating relationship patterns. With 13 years of experience, she works with those carrying the legacy of childhood trauma or past abuse, people who habitually put others first, and those struggling to trust or to feel connected to themselves. Paula helps clients reclaim a sense of safety in their bodies, practice boundaries without guilt, and rebuild confidence to take control of their lives and relationships.

Her work is trauma-informed and collaborative. She combines person-centred listening with mind-body awareness techniques and relational exploration to address how past experiences shape current feelings and behaviours. She also offers psychoeducation so clients can recognise common trauma responses - such as people-pleasing, shutdown, overthinking, or hypervigilance - and approach change with self-compassion. Paula holds BACP credentials, the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, which reflects her professional standing in the field.

Paula specialises in supporting people affected by childhood sexual abuse, domestic and sexual abuse, and harmful or narcissistic relationship dynamics. She works with issues including people-pleasing, co-dependency, low self-worth, anxiety, shame, trust and abandonment fears, difficulty setting boundaries, and feelings of numbness or overwhelm. Sessions are gentle, validating, and paced to the individual, offering space to tell a story, make sense of patterns, release shame, learn emotion-regulation tools, and strengthen personal boundaries.

Some clients say therapy with Paula feels like finally being understood and having someone bear witness to what they have experienced. She accepts clients in the United Kingdom and internationally and provides support through a range of online formats.

Approaches that guide online sessions and healing

Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early relationships influence current connection and trust. Paula uses this approach to help clients understand patterns of closeness and distance, which can be useful for addressing relationship difficulties, fear of abandonment, and trust issues.

Client-Centred Therapy places the client at the pace and heart of the work. In this model Paula offers empathic listening, acceptance, and respect so individuals can explore identity, self-worth, and personal goals in a supportive space.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and behaviours and offers practical strategies to reduce anxiety, challenge unhelpful thinking, and develop coping skills. CBT techniques can be helpful alongside other approaches for managing symptoms and building everyday skills.

Finding the right approach is part of the therapeutic journey. Paula works collaboratively with each person to identify which methods fit their needs, goals, and preferences, adjusting the mix of approaches as therapy progresses. That collaborative process helps shape a personalised plan that feels manageable and relevant.

Online therapy offers practical flexibility - sessions by video call or phone let people meet from home, while live chat and text-based messaging provide options for shorter or more frequent contact. These formats make it easier to fit therapy around work, family, or health needs and increase access to licensed professionals and therapists regardless of location.